The KISS...

So what is up with this first kiss thing? I mean, there is a lot to be said about how a man kisses...YUMMY! I am no expert at kissing...I did not write the book or anything, but I believe that I am very good at it. Over the years, I have kissed some amazing kissers and they have commented on my technique...so I can honestly say with complete confidence that my kissing abilities are far above average. So, how does one become a good kisser?

A friend of mine called me two nights ago, she happened to be with a particular gentleman that she works with and they happened to be in a situation that rendered them drunk and back at her place. So they began kissing and some other things....believe me, I would write the other things, but her and I have not had a chance to completely talk the details out, so as SOON as I know them I will make an update. So, I asked if he was a good kisser. (I wonder if this is the first thing that men ask when a guy is telling a story? Probably not...theirs is more like..."Does she give good head?") and she replied back with, "what made him good is he realized what I liked and adjusted to that". BINGO!!!

So this got me to thinking...is a good kisser one that has a fantastic technique? Or is he/she one that adjusts to their partners desires? So, let's talk about some bad kisses, great kisses, first kisses, and kisses that should have never been!

BAD KISSES:
Open MOUTH!!!! O.k. I have a big mouth (in SO MANY ways) and I like to open my mouth. So when I am kissing a guy, if I feel like I am kissing a small bottle opening then I am going to be less enthused. OPEN THE FUCKIN MOUTH. Ok...slobbering...I like a sloppy kiss and most women I know likes a guy that can lick around, cause then we know that the guy can give u one damn good HAPPY ENDING...HOWEVER, if we are wiping off spit for a week then this was not an experience that we want to attempt again. This I bet you is a very personal preference....NO SOFT KISSES...now I do have to elaborate and say that there is a time and place for a soft kiss....and I also have to say that coming in for a crazy hard kiss the first time is not a turn on either, but damn guys, I want to know that this is the way you are going to be in bed...and all the soft shit is for old people. Make an attempt to drive her crazy...and there is NO girl out there who does not like the secret (OR in my case NOT SO SECRET) thought that her man is going to ravage her body at any give moment.

First Kisses:
The first kiss is crucial, this will decide whether your getting off or getting out. So some things that you must know or have a feeling of is whether or not to make the attempt. **DISCLOSURE** just because you and her may have been talking about sex on the phone before you have met face to face does NOT mean that you are entitled to a first kiss.

• don't rush it....feel her out...tease a little
• TEASE a little
• TEASE
• nibble...NO DAN not BITE...nibble on her lips
• HAIR..grab hold of the hair at the back of her head while you are kissing her makes a WORLD of difference...oh and a slight little pull heightens the moment,
• the previous bullet helps lead into the roughness.....when you have her hair, you have a hold of her head....you control it at this moment, use that to your advantage....women can take a little hint of this too....EVEN men who like to be in control like a little of aggression by their girl.
• DO NOT come in for the first kiss if the girl is NOT giving you the signals....this would be awkward and bad....bad....bad.... If you are trying to hold her hand and she is finding other things to do like go for a walk instead of holding your hand..SHE DOES NOT want to kiss you goodbye or in any other fashion at ANY other time

Body language is good....know to adapt and change...just cause you THINK your a cassonova...does not mean that you really are...take clues from her...and as my friend sais...:He changed according to what I liked".....be that great kisser that she will want to take into her bedroom in less than 2.5 seconds!

A kiss that speaks volumes is seldom a first edition. ~Clare Whiting